Entitled sister-in-law demands free baby sitting on command from husband's sister, she resorts to blunt honesty and he accuses her of humiliating his wife: "She's humiliating herself"

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 28, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

Hey there, ladies and gentlemen of the internet. There's no harm in saying the word "no," yet for some people and cultures, this word is as bad as it gets. Ever heard of people pleasers? The word "no" to a people pleaser is worse than anything you could say. It has an inherent negative connotation, and some people would rather promise their souls to St. Francis than tell someone no. And on the opposite spectrum, some people can't be told no! I had a friend who dated a guy who told her that he hates being told no. He said he takes it as a rejection. I'm sorry, but are you a toddler? It's the only age group that detests the word no, and takes such an ego hit with that miniscule level of rejection. 
 

Hopefully you're a sound and grown up adult who can hear a "no" without losing themselves completely to the depths of human fraught, malice, or anger. We've all encountered entitled people in our spheres, it's just about who we let dominate there, or what we ultimately tell them. 

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    My SIL asks a lot of stupid, annoying questions everytime she is told no. So I decided to answer her honestly. AITAH?

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    I (28F) have 2 older brothers: Paul (30M) and Ben (33M). Ben is married to Ellie (32F) and Ellie is a lot. At her age she still does not understand boundaries, personal
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  • It's really a pet peeve of mine when people get a little too nosy about your life. They should willing to accept the “no” that you've offered them. If you say you're busy, what difference does it make if you have a crucial, non-negotiable plan or not? Why would the person still want to hang out with someone who already rejected them?

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    space/time or the difference between reasonable questions and stupid ones.
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    Ellie can't for the life of her get that people are entitled to their space, time and to say no and when someone says no, she will follow up with a lot of stupid
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    additional questions somehow trying to make that person feel bad for refusing her. Some examples for you to better understand. She does not drive so
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    whenever she wants to go shopping she will ask me to go with her for a shopping spree (aka me being her personal driver for the day). I say no, she goes
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    Who in this world refuses a shopping session with another woman?. Ben and Ellie were planning to do some remodeling to their house. Ellie asked Paul So
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    you are free this weekend to come work with Ben on everything that needs to be done, right?. Paul said no because he had to work during that weekend so Ellie went
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    Can't you just take the weekend off? Why can't you prioritize helping your brother over work? It's just a one time thing, you'll have other weekends to work
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    Both Paul and I talked to Ellie and to Ben as well. We asked Ellie to stop with this habit because it's honestly annoying. She is not entitled to our time, she is not
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    entitled to question us about our reasons or to insist on things. Basically we tried to tell her no is a full sentence but she doubled down and said she is not doing
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    anything to annoy us but that she naturally is a curious person and this is why she asks follow up questions. No need to mention
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    that nothing changed and she continues to do her thing. So I decided that since she is a curious person and needs to know everything, I should answer her honestly.
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    She once asked me to watch their kid on a weekend so they can have some time for themselves, I said no, she went What can be more important than spending
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    time with your nephew?. So I answered her Honestly, there are multiple things more important for me than being a free babysitter on demand, things like my time, my
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    sleep, me spending some quality time after an entire week of work. Stuff like that. The next time she decided on a Thrursday to plan a family weekend and invited me,
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    Paul and my parents to go to a cabin for the weekend, meaning to leave to the cabin the following day after work and return on Sunday. None of us was able to go on such a short notice
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    because (surprise) we already had things planned so she once again asked what other plans can be so important that we can't reschedule them for family quality
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    time. Once again I answered honestly Personally I am attending my best friend's birthday party and spending time with people whose company I enjoy is more important than spending quality time with you.
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    I am aware I am a b***h, believe me I know. However I can't bring myself to feel bad. Paul followed my lead and started doing kind of the same thing but he is a little
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    bit more polite than I am. We both have a good laugh each time we need to be brutally honest to answer her curiosity.
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    But Ben is ped. He claims we are intentionally humiliating his wife. We told him she is humiliating herself by not being able to respect boundaries and if he wants us to stop he can tell her to stop with the questions.
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    DawnShakhar • 10h ago NTA. Your method is a good one if it shuts her off. Another way to handle it is, when she asks for
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    something and you tell her "No" and she asks further, say "I've already said "No". Just because you refuse to accept it doesn't mean I have to continue the conversation".
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